Another face of Love

After all that on Love and marriage, too much of discussion seems to happen....Now the question is Can love turn into hate?

And my answer is NO.

There are two angles to this problem.Lets take it 1 at a time.

You Love a Person and the person does not love you.

Frankly, speaking there is nothing you could do in such a situation.The feeling of affection & care and belongingness which you felt towards that person,he/she did not feel it towards you.Neither of you are at fault.This is how human beings are made.Everyone is different, no two people think the same or feel the same.Forget about some XYZ. Just take your brother or sister for example,do both of you love each other in the same way or for that matter is your love for your mom or dad is the same? One of you might love your mom more and the other one the dad and there could be various reasons for it.This doesnt mean you dont love them at all it means just that you dont love them as you love the other person.

So ,Its the same here also.If you love a XYZ and that XYZ doesnt reciprocate, there could be 1001 reasons for it.And that person might not be even able to tell it.And there is no point in you feeling hurt in such a circumstance.

The second type is a more tricky and a sentimental issue.
A person says he / she also loves but then says no

If such a thing happens, it is totally humane to get upset,angey,hurt and everything. Here also the only fault on your side is probably did not know whom to give your love to.Whatever is happening here can be taken on various way but the best way to handle it is to feel probably that person is not lucky enough to experience your love for them by staying with you, because this is the only way to keep urself away from getting hurt.And if you get hurt jus because someone had hurt you by ditching it could lead your life into getting gloomy, you might lose the confidence you have on Love and you might also get afraid of loving anybody else,becuase you are afraid of getting hurt.

And when such a thing happens can the love turn into hurt? NO.Love stays love,if it stays into hatred then it was never love it was jus a need. You felt you loved that person because you needed something from that person and when that person refuses to satisfy your need it becomes hate. And by calling the need as Love you were just fooling around.

So,friends be clear in what you want and what you give.Love a lot and be loved a lot!!!!

Love and Marriage....

After reading a friend's blog today, i am inspired to do this piece of blogging....
Love and marriage.....There is a lot of things coming into my head and i m jus gonna put them all down..

Now what is Love, it has been so wrongly understood by so many people that Love is a feeling which is 99% of time comes only to the person of the opposite sex.All these Love at first sight and crap.The media needs to be blamed for this.Love is such a beautiful feeling which can come even towards ur pet dog,for that matter even towards a key chain u think is dear to you. Love is a mixture of a lot of emotions.When you say you love a person you mean that you care for that person,you wanna share the good,bad,great and worst times of the person,It means that if that person is going through some pain it hurts you.More importantly when you Love a person it means that you are giving that person the right to hurt you. And it is a promise that if you start loving a person you can never hate them.Now coming to the Love of our society..the boy gal funda

Is it better that u love the person before marriage or is it better that u marry a person and love.
This is somewhat similar to our all time favourite topic Love Marriage Vs Arranged Marriage. Well, at this point in my life when most of my friends are in the so called Love, i feel Arranged marriages are much much better. When people commit themselves to a person that he / she is gonna spend their entire life with you as your Husband / Wife and then ditch you it is such a pain and tht is what happens 99% in today's world atleast.This is such a cruel materialistic world.Why get into something then hurt yourself and also the other person.And married life is not a joke as it looks like. When you decide to get marrried to a person then you are deciding to live the rest of your life with that person.

And can you decide it just because you think you love a person. Films are fine to watch and enjoy for 3 hours but will they fit into our lives. Just because a hero and heroine runaway marry and succeed does it mean anyone running away can do it. And half the people after getting married think was it the person they loved.And this doesnt mean that in arrnaged marriages it is all well and fine.No even there you are risking your life to a person whom you dont know but there atleast you are sure your parents wont risk your life.

Love is a belief which can come on a person at any time. Marriage is an commitment which is good if it is made once in your life. If it is Love before marriage be sure it is love and if you plan to get married, see to that you love stays and matures.Life doesnt go on just by filmi dialogues. To spend your life together you need to make a lot of compromises,there should a feeling of need,affection,compatibility,sharing and all that.

Above all thism when your parent has chosen all the best things for you all these 22+ years dont they know what next needs to come in your life.If you cannot make this small compromise for your parents and give them the opportunity to choose your life partner then i feel you can never love anyone in your life.Coz if you cant compromise for a person you dont love them and if you dont love your parents then you probably donno what love is.

It is so happening that for quite sometime in my life now i have been feeling that nothing goes on as i want it.Be it a small thing like watching a program on TV to a something veyr important in life. My brains do tell me that it is not with you but with everyone,but the heart never accepts and it also wins always.

First i thought that it is just a phase of life which comes in everyone's life but now i am wondering whether it is a very long phase.What is that the person above has in store for me??Y is he frustrating me so much...Y is he teaching me things like Loneliness,Defeat,frustration etc....

Will there be some light at the end of this long tunnel????It is for time to answer....